Tuesday, August 20, 2013
saturday market basket: our new method for teaching our boys to clean up their stuff
Typically, as I clean I make little piles for everyone....a pile for Ash & one for Gray outside of their room, a pile of toys that magically made it out of "the cave" and into the house even though that's NEVER supposed to happen, etc. The idea behind the little piles is that they would see the pile and put the things away without me having to asking them to do so a gazillion times. Sometimes they do see the stuff and put it away but mostly it takes a mad mommy voice combined with a teacher eyebrow raise to get it done. Not fun for mama.
But Wait....I still will have to nag to get the basket emptied. No bueno! I don't want to have to nag. After some thought I came up with the idea that during the week the kids could get their stuff from the basket and then anything that wasn't put away on Saturday would get donated.
I shared my idea with a friend and she shared what another friend of hers does...the kids can buy back the things they really want with real money and the rest get donated. Oooh now this is getting interesting!
The whole point is to get the boys to be more responsible with their stuff and not expect the maid aka mom to pick up after them. What kind of husbands would I have raised!?! (Future daughter-in-laws I'm really trying to raise fabulous husbands for you.) Having to pay for the items would be a good lesson for the kids after all we have to pay to replace lost and broken things that do not get put away.
Our boys get "paid" 2x a month to help them learn to manage money. On the 1st and 15th the boys get $10.00 in ones. 10% goes to God, 10% goes to savings, and the rest in their pockets. We've recently started giving out dollar fines for bad attitudes, not listening and following directions, etc. The dollar fines really seem to help our kids think before they act. Ash is Mr. Saver and wants to keep all his money for something amazing one day. He just can't decide what that will be yet. Gray has been Mr. Spender but now is starting to realize that he needs to be more thoughtful in his spending.
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